The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome- what kind of woman wants a wimpy doormat?
Apparently the majority of us females are looking for a blend of cocky, rude and dominant qualities in their men. Though our behaviour suggests otherwise, subconsciously we don't want the man who can treat us best. We want the bad boy, whom we can turn good. This is something that I hear time and time again. It causes me to wonder, why the hell do women contradict themselves like that? Why do we voice our wants for a charming, romantic and sensitive man when inwardly we are probably desiring to be mistreated in some way shape or form? I really think that we are just addicted to things going wrong, to drama. To excitement.
"You're a nice guy, but....." Exactly. It's because you're too nice, and you won't stir something major up our lives. Can we ever rise above that?
About Me
- stina
- I'm a little bit neurotic, I'm inspired but lazy, I sing everywhere I go and it will probably annoy the shit out of you! I've been called everything before, from brilliant to stupid, ugly to beautiful, childish to mature, loud to quiet- so I don't really know. And I'm in my 3rd year at Melb Uni, doing a course that I don't particularly love.
A woman said this, think it was on the radio or something, but - passion and passion as the spark for love is all about the rebellion, the danger, the excitement.
Love on the other hand, is more about dependance, dependability and accountability.
Come to think of that, thats nothing like what I heard, but, whatever, the latter still sounds boring, or a boring way of putting it. Something for accountants.
Haha, it sounds boring because in some ways it is- its peaceful and lovely, as opposed to the thrill that you get out of lust and doing what is forbidden. It's still beautiful, only alot of people aren't looking for that kind of beauty.
I sometimes think its more for old people who are losing their sex drive and looking for a life 'partner' as opposed to a 'lover'.